You have to start someplace, so why not start today?

For me, the “getting started” part of a new project or working toward my new goal is the hardest part.

I want to wait to put my best foot forward, so people will be impressed with my “smarts” and say WOW!

I want to be sure I have the best equipment. That can be the shoes and “active wear apparel” at the gym. Or, have the state-of-the-art camera equipment for the videos I am making, with lights and sound to make the video (and me!) look awesome. Or, when my friends come to visit me, I want my home to reflect my great taste and personal style.

So we wait, and lose out on valuable time in achieving our goals!

shutterstock_55922362Give yourself the green light to start where you are. With old sweats and worn sneaks… with a laptop camcorder… with laminate counter tops in the kitchen and family room paneling!

Start!  Get going!  Work out in your old sweats and sneaks!  Make the first videos on the laptop camcorder. Don’t wait to have great times with your friends until your house is perfect.

Start! Move a little bit today and then a little more tomorrow. The workout outfit will not Aerobicsmake the muscles tone any faster. The camera does not convey the key messages you want to communicate. And, your real friends love you, in spite of the laminate!

Remember Newton’s first law of motion, and Cathi’s second corollary: a body in motion tends to stay in motion and a body at rest will never achieve its goals!

Don’t wait to build a more meaningful, healthier and happier life for yourself.

Get Started Today

Start today with the you and resources you have to live A Can Do life.

I bet you will be glad that you did!

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3rd String :-)

???????????????????????????????What a Can Do week for my Ohio State Buckeyes. They are in the FIRST EVER college football championship game next Monday night, playing the Oregon Ducks.

What impressed me most about the post game celebration was the tweet that their quarterback sent out after the game.

Only 11 characters long:

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Yes, that is right.  For those who don’t know, Cardale Jones is Ohio State’s 3rd string quarterback who started his first game in the Big Ten Championship game last month after the 2nd string quarterback, JT Barrett was injured in the Michigan game.  And, JT had played in that position all year because the first string quarterback, Braxton Miller injured his shoulder before the season began and everyone thought Ohio State’s season was OVER before it started!

So, when I think of all the reasons I give to myself and everyone else for not getting something done with excellence, I stop and think about my buddy, Cardale, aka 3rd String.

OSU had all the reasons in the world NOT to advance to the biggest game in college football.  But they did. Led by their third string quarterback, they crushed Wisconsin to get to the Sugar Bowl.

Then, everyone (well, many people) said that they would never beat a Southeastern Conference Team, especially the powerhouse, Number 1 ranked Alabama.

Led by their third string QB, they did just that.

Bring on Monday night, I say! It’s the Bucks versus the Ducks – let’s see what they Can Do!  (On a side note, I will be in Dallas on business but not going to the game. Not that I did not try, but the nosebleed tickets start at $550! Alas, Cardale, I will cheer you on from my cousin’s home, about 10 miles away! So close, yet so far… Go Bucks!)

So, what have been your excuses?  What has held you back from achieving – even working on – your dreams and goals?  What is stopping you now?

Are you one of the dozens of people from across the globe who have signed up for the Seven Secrets Workbook CoverFREE Seven Secrets of a Can Do Workplace virtual workshop series?  Yes, that’s right! There are workshop participants in Europe, Asia and South America – how cool is that?

What is even cooler? It’s FREE!

If you have signed up, check your email tomorrow for your reminder about Wednesday’s tele-workshop at 1PM Eastern.

If not, there is still time to sign up!  Click here and enter your name and email at the bottom of the page to receive the links to the videos and podcasts, the access code for the tele-workshop on Wednesday and the Seven Secrets Workbook. Registration is open until January 16th.

Cardale Jones and I are having a Can Do 2015 – We hope you are too!

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Need a Resolution for 2015? How about a more Can Do Life?

2015 On Athletics All Weather Running TrackAs 2015 rolls into existence later this week, some people are scrambling to figure out their New Year’s Resolution.

I am sure that there are many people out there who want to make a difference, be better parents, volunteers, bosses, employees, friends and caregivers – or be healthier and happier –  but just don’t know what to do differently. They set goals every year to “be a better ______” fill in the blank. But they get frustrated, busy, distracted and give up, and are disappointed in themselves until this week every year, when they start to make their resolutions again!

Here’s my recommendation:

The FREE Seven Secrets of a Can Do Life virtual workshop series might offer just the ideas, resources and support you need to make a Can Do kind of difference in 2015.

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” E.E. Cummings

The benefits of a Can Do life go way beyond what it does for us individually. I believe that there are many people who can use the Can Do model to become a Can Do Role Model for the kids (and some of the adults) in their lives. Become people who say YES! to life and focus on building their goals and achieve their dreams. Individuals and teams that make decisions based on possibilities and potential. People who quietly inspire and motivate others, sometimes without knowing that they do it.

With so many “sports heroes” clearly focused on themselves and having a good time, with so many so-called pop stars trying to outdo each other with odd, immature and weird behavior, and with the political leaders competitively tearing each other down, I say it is time for some everyday heroes to commit to show up, step up and speak up!

Seven Secrets Workbook CoverThe Seven Secrets of a Can Do Life virtual workshop series provides the resources, tools, inspiration and motivation to become an every day hero to the important people in your life, starting with you!

This new – and FREE – virtual workshop series starts on January 2nd and includes 2 videos, 2 podcasts, a workbook and a live tele-workshop on January 7th.

Registration is open. Click here for more information.  

You owe it to yourself and the ones you love!

Happy New Year!

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Moving from My Story to Our Story…. A BIG Step

Stories not only teach us how to act – they inspire us to act. Stories communicate our values through the language of the heart, our emotions. And it is what we feel – our hopes, our cares, our obligations – not simply what we know that can inspire us with the courage to act.  Marshall Ganz

cover.finalLast year, when I wrote The Can Do Chronicles, I was attempting to find my voice, to tell my story out loud and in the open. I was such a reluctant author! I told my story of personal transformation during a prolonged time of challenge and adversity, hoping that someone, somewhere might maybe, possibly get some inspiration from it. The whole experience felt awkward, like I was walking in high heels on a slippery sidewalk, and one false step would either totally humiliate me or cripple me for life – or maybe both.

I got the story out there. Whew! Met that goal. Ticked that box! Then in the months that followed, I realized I want to do more with it – with this Can Do “thing” that had become the center and focus of my life.

I want to share more than just my story. I want to spread my Can Do world view and its life-giving message.

I want to shift from telling my story to leading to shape “our story.”  Sure, shutterstock_945275my background in counseling, nonprofit leadership, training and writing comes together and positions me very well. But O.M.G., it’s taking a big leap of faith and courage for me to get out there!

But, I need to do it, so I am! I don’t want to keep it to myself because I believe CAN DO is too important!  

Why? In today’s world, where there is so much division, blaming, negativity and drama, I am totally convinced that a Can Do attitude and world view makes a fundamental difference in peoples’ personal lives, families, neighborhoods, workplaces and communities. I feel called and compelled to GET THE WORD OUT THERE about the promise and potential of Can Do.

So, for the last few months, I have been busy creating, writing, discussing and developing numerous strategies, venues and channels to GET CAN DO OUT THERE!  I am very excited and, I have to admit, more than a little scared about pushing, marketing and being OUT THERE. The age old anxiety questions pop up: What if you don’t like me or my message?  Or don’t agree with me?  What if I mess something up?  shutterstock_70290889Well, questions or not, I have put my “Big Girl Shoes” on, and back out there onto the slippery sidewalk I go!  I know it will not all go perfectly, but I am giving it my best shot with the resources I have today. I trust the voice inside me which has guided the creation and growth of Can Do for almost five years. And, I gotta say, I am pretty darned proud of myself for doing that!

So how and where is it all GETTING OUT THERE, you ask?  Here are a few good places for everyone to start:

  1. The Seven Secrets of a Can Do Life FREE virtual workshop series launches on January 2nd
  2. You can read The Can Do Chronicles with this early bird special savings of 15% – it’s the quiet launch!  To take advantage of this special offer, click here and when you check out, enter discount code 5K243YTD. The Chronicles is still available in Kindle format on amazon.com, but without the updating and refreshing I did for the paperback.
  3. The Can Do Dialogues, my new series of podcasts with inspiring guests sharing their Can Do stories, launched on December 2nd. The newest post is a great, fast-paced conversation with my friend, colleague and fellow cancer survivor and writer, Judy Leaver. Check back regularly to hear new, inspiring stories.
  4. I am writing my second book, the Can Do Workplace, and I just learned last week that it was accepted to be published by Motivational Press later this year. WOW!
  5. I have restructured Coridan Consulting to provide writing, training and interim thumbnailexecutive services that help nonprofits and small businesses navigate change & growth with excellence so they can make a Can Do kind of difference.

I am grateful that I have the combination of leadership experience and the gift of words – written and spoken – that allow me to share my story and begin to tell “our story” of the promise and potential of Can Do.

BUT

I cannot do this alone! My BIG 2015 goal is to use the phenomenal potential and opportunities afforded by the internet and virtual technology to create an online Can Do Community that spans and touches all part of the globe. Check back, I will be posting much more about it in the weeks to come.

In the meantime, I hope you will check out other posts on the Can Do Blog, take advantage of the early bird discount code to buy your copy of The Can Do Chronicles, listen to the the new post on the Can Do Dialogues and sign up for the The Seven Secrets of a Can Do Life FREE virtual workshop series…. And, imagine what our world will be like when we all make a little bit of a Can Do difference every day.

With heartfelt thanks –

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The Can Do Chronicles, Ferguson, MO & Thanksgiving

coverFor the last month, my life has been fully focused on the publication of my little book, The Can Do Chronicles as a paperback, moving it off the cyber-shelves of e-book status and “getting it out there.” I am in the final stages of developing workshops and workbooks designed to help people make “Can Do” decisions and say YES! to life every day. I have two white boards and two calendars filled with notes, deadlines and outlines for the mid-December launch. The To Do list has several items that are marked URGENT and IMPORTANT that were intended for “first thing this morning.”

URGENT and IMPORTANT got pushed aside with the sad news of the violence and destruction overnight in Ferguson. I have postings on my Facebook page from good friends from many years who see the grand jury’s decision as an injustice and are angry at the disparities and afraid for their sons of color. My heart hurts for them. Above and below them are also numerous postings about Thanksgiving, ranging from political cartoons about who the real immigrants are, to recipes for the green bean casserole, to prayers to share, to petitions to keep the stores closed. My Facebook page is my life’s little melting pot – so much diversity coming at me in just one news feed.

I took a walk this morning to clear my head, say my prayers and enjoy the last warm morning for a while. It gave me time to reflect on the deeper meaning that Can Do has for me, how it relates to Michael Brown, Darren Wilson, the people of Ferguson and the hundreds of youth and families of color that I have known and worked with through the years. I thought in new ways about the potential and promise of my Can Do message that has motivated me write my books and blogs to focus on sharing and spreading Can Do. My reflection was on the systems we have and how they fail us, in many ways and on many levels.

How many lives will be changed, some ruined, by moments in our history like Ferguson? What and where are the Can Do Answers or Can Do Directions when the guidelines become less clear? What are the lessons learned from these moments to help us get better, not just more bitter? How much bigger will the divide get – the divide that gets filled with blame and anger, finger pointing and righteousness? Where is the Can Do of Ferguson, MO? There are no easy answer here.

As I try to make sense of it all a few days before Thanksgiving, I remember part of a November 2013 article from America Magazine that was reprinted in our parish bulletin this week.

Some reflections of the origins of Thanksgiving might help us to renew this wonderful, truly American “holy day.” In 1863, in the midst of the horrendous Civil War, Abraham Lincoln make Thanksgiving a national holiday, calling in his proclamation for “humble penitence for our national perverseness and disobedience.” He urged repentance, a turning back to God, as well as gratitude for God’s bounty.

During this week when Ferguson and Thanksgiving are juxtaposed, with such intense media focus on what divides us, I ask myself what CAN I DO to find more ways to bring people together? With so much focus on what is not there, how can I, and we, find new ways to shine the light on what resources are there, somewhere in the ashes, to build on and work with?

This Thanksgiving, I will pray for Michael Brown and his family, and for all the families impacted, including Darren Wilson and his family. And, for the members of the grand jury who had such a difficult task; and for the lawyers, the police and the lawmakers to have Wisdom guide their actions.

I have spent many of the over 40 years of my career working with hundreds of youth and families that others have given up on. What I know in my bones is that those kids are only doing what we, the adults, are teaching them to do. We are their touchstones, their guides and their hope. This Thanksgiving week, I pray especially hard for all of the young people of all colors who have given up. And, I will pray for our country’s adults to not stop looking for new and more ways to say YES! and to show our young people how to say YES! too.

What is it we CAN DO going forward that will make a difference? At the core of my CanGratitude Do world view is my complete conviction about the power of gratitude to transform lives and unite, rather than divide, people. In the words of Mr. Lincoln, let us claim Thanksgiving as a day for forgiveness, a turning back to God, as well as gratitude for God’s bounty – and that from that vantage point of grace, let’s each one of us find just one little YES! that can start to unite us. That is my prayer for us all this Thanksgiving.

New York Times, Meet The Can Do Workplace

I have been devoting big, no huge, chunks of my time over the last six weeks researching and writing my new book, The Can Do Workplace. I have thoroughly enjoyed my dozen-plus interviews with Can Do minded folks from around the shutterstock_94875910world. The outline is almost “there,” and the introduction and chapter three are both final drafts. Writing a book is a marathon, not just a race and I am still quite far from the magic moment of loading the manuscript onto its first stop, the Kindle e-bookstore shelf. My plan is to hit the PUBLISH button the week of Thanksgiving.

Recently I have been feeling a bit itchy because I really miss the feeling of accomplishment that comes from meeting concrete goals and getting some immediate gratification. Then last night I had an idea shutterstock_72101557to help scratch the itch!  I decided to begin to offer “sneak peeks” of the book’s contents on my social media platforms. First thing this morning I made a couple of notes, and then tucked them away planning to return to them after I finished the projects that were due today for my paying clients. (FYI: both deadline-driven documents were delivered before I started working on this blog!)

This afternoon, just after my favorite client from Atlanta called to postpone our meeting, a friend of mine posted an Opinion piece on Facebook, titled Why You Hate Work from the May 30th edition of the New York Times, and it moved me into action. The authors do an excellent job of describing the challenges and problems I have been New York Times Logoidentifying about workplace culture in the book, and of articulating and supporting why I believe that building and sustaining Can Do Workplaces is a pressing need that is critical to our economic future.

…just 30 percent of employees in America feel engaged at work, according to a 2013 report by Gallup. Around the world, across 142 countries, the proportion of employees who feel engaged at work is just 13 percent. For most of us, in short, work is a depleting, dispiriting experience, and in some obvious ways, it’s getting worse.

Demand for our time is increasingly exceeding our capacity — draining us of the energy we need to bring our skill and talent fully to life. Increased competitiveness and a leaner, post-recession work force add to the pressures. The rise of digital technology is perhaps the biggest influence, exposing us to an unprecedented flood of information and requests that we feel compelled to read and respond to at all hours of the day and night.

(The research shows that) employees are vastly more satisfied and productive, it turns out, when four of their core needs are met: 1) physical, through opportunities to regularly renew and recharge at work; 2) emotional, by feeling valued and appreciated for their contributions; 3) mental, when they have the opportunity to focus in an absorbed way on their most important tasks and define when and where they get their work done; and 4) spiritual, by doing more of what they do best and enjoy most, and by feeling connected to a higher purpose at work. The more effectively leaders and organizations support employees in meeting these core needs, the more likely the employees are to experience engagement, loyalty, job satisfaction and positive energy at work, and the lower their perceived levels of stress.

These issues seem, as my undergrad statistics professor used to say, “intuitively obvious.” So, you might ask: why do I need to write the book when the NYT and Gallup have done such a great job defining the problem and articulating the solution?   Enter the Can Do Model of Change & Growth, with strategies that help motivate and move people to go from CAN and get them to DO.  The challenge is not in defining the problem, it is in designing and implementing ways to move organizations, filled with people who are highly resistant, to make significant changes in how they organize and conduct business.  That’s where the book’s outline that I (well, almost) finished this weekend comes to life.

Change & Growth happens in that tricky and remarkable space between CAN & DO!

Stay Tuned!

Change Just Ahead

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The Can Do Blog has been undergoing a bit of a makeover, and the work will continue as there is more change on the horizon.

 

The last few months have been quiet on the blog-front because, as you will see below, it has been a difficult and stressful time. In the spring, I began working on the expansion of my consulting practice, developing new applications for the Can Do model. But, things did not go as planned and my life became quite unsettled. My father began to have a rapid decline of his health and ability to function independently.  I was on the phone with my sister on a daily basis making new, hard, confusing decisions as we arranged for him to first have in-home care. Then, when he did not improve, he moved into a nursing facility and we began to make plans for his long term care. My sister, Beth and I shared his power of attorney, so we started learning about his finances, talking to lawyers and deciding what we needed to do with some of the pieces of his life – his community memberships, his business ventures, etc. We also worked hard to be most supportive of his wife, Marge.

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Dad with me and Santa – Christmas 2010

Just as we were finalizing the plan to talk with him about some critical decisions, he took a quick trip to the ER. One of the nurses called my sister and told her that all of us needed to see him the next day because he had developed pneumonia and was being sent back to the nursing home for comfort care only. The following night – I had arrived mid-afternoon and saw him twice – he died peacefully in his sleep. The next weeks were a blur, filled with the funeral, high emotion, legal needs and a great deal of family negotiating. The house, which is the primary asset in his estate, is now on the market to be sold. There is still more work to be done, but not until it sells. I am planning to write a short e-book called Driving My Dad’s Car, where I will share more of this story – of the challenges and complexities of caring for and losing elderly parents.

So, now, finally, I am busy with the details and plans to expand my consulting practice, Coridan Consulting Services. In the next months, I will move it past being primarily a grant writing service, to offer a menu of services for nonprofits and small businesses in the areas of: 1) Organizational Development & Program Growth, 2) Training & Technical Assistance and  3) Writing Services. The Can Do Workplace Model, the centerpiece of the expansion, is in the last stages of development. The new website is being designed. The new business, and a new chapter in my life, will be launched in September.

This revitalized Can Do Blog will support, nurture and promote the Can Do Workplace Model.  It will also continue to provide me with a venue for sharing the more personal experiences and opportunities of the Can Do Life Model.

Getting ready for change…. it’s an exciting, great place to be. I am glad you are along to share the journey…. it’s going to be quite the adventure!

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2013 – A Year In Between

2013

What a year it has been!

It started with great hope and anticipation as I completed my chemo on January 5th.  I was totally unprepared for how lousy I felt all of January and February… it was the cumulative effects of six months of chemo, but it flattened my fantasy of chemo’s end and new life’s beginning.  You know what they say about assumptions…

All frustration faded in early March when Ned and I went on an awesome, wonderful 10 day cruise in the Caribbean.  With earbuds channeling my favorite tunes, I walked around and around the deck soaking the healing light of the sun’s rays into my blood.  Josh Groban, Susan Boyle, Peter Paul and Mary, Mozart, Beethoven, Simon and Garfunkel, Billy Joel, Andrea Bocelli, Mary Chapin Carpenter serenaded my blood and my brain back to health. The scenery was breathtaking – the Caribbean’Vacation 2013 066???????????????????????????????s forty shades of blue easily match Ireland’s forty shades of green.  I took hundreds of pictures on St. Kitts, St. Maarten, Antigua and Tortola – not so much in Martinique, with the beautiful name and so-so scenery.  I had read an article about the healing powers of swimming in salt water, so we went to two beaches so I could swim and bob about in the clear blue water.  We met and made new friends from California and Scotland.  It gets the rating of BEST CRUISE EVER!

Reality returned quickly – the furnace died and so did my work computer… followed by a leak in the water line.  Net: over $12K in under 90 days.  So much for getting ahead! SIGH!

By late April I was feeling great and began to look for full time work.  “Writing grants” is great, and I am very good at it.  But, now that I was feeling good, I was getting a little bit bored.  Working alone from home, while a comfort when I felt lousy, was making me stir-crazy.  I collage1spent some time pulling my thoughts about what was most important to me in my work and life, and developed an advocacy focus and business blog, but it was still not ticking all of my boxes. I applied for several senior development and CEO positions; a couple of them had interesting back stories, too! Most were for nonprofits with strong child-focused missions; one was not! Then I realized, I enjoy my contractor/consultant role and am fortunate and grateful create my own business – and it has the potential to grow and change with time.  I don’t have to stay at home and be bored – that is a state of mind that is easily changed as I make plans to get out and meet new people and research what I want my business to become. As I write this, the challenges and stresses of the work-a-day fade, and I realize how blessed I am to have good clients, interesting work and a whole world of opportunity ahead of me. I pause to let it sink in – and smile!

Through the summer and fall I wrote and edited, and re-edited!, and then finally published The cover.finalCan Do Chronicles, my little e-book that narrates the journey of the last four years.  The launch on October 4th was a frenzy of making sure the book got loaded correctly and on time onto the amazon.com site, marketing e-mails to friends and colleagues and just about everyone I had ever met, constant updating of the book’s very own Facebook page, and writing for the Can Do Blog, the book’s very own blog!  I had an awesome radio interview in the WOO (Worcester, MA) on Sunday the 20th, and pages of ideas for marketing. I started to believe I really was an author!

As a bizarre twist in a parallel universe to the story I tell in the book, on October 21st, Ned called to tell me that his job had been eliminated.  Fortunately, this time I am healthy and working full time, so we are not staring over the cliff into the black abyss like we were on June 18, 2010 when he called with similar news.  But, it has been a frustrating and challenging way to end the year. My attention immediately shifted from spending 6-10 hours a week marketing the book and developing the Can Do side of my business and life, to totally focusing on managing my stress level, getting my work done and staying healthy. As a contractor, I have no “paid time off,” and, while I am healthy again, I literally cannot afford a cold or the flu.  Ned’s attention is fully focused on getting a new job… his qualifications are fabulous, but his age is a challenge in the current job market.

Both of us continue to count our blessings.  Can Do remains at our core.  We discovered (again!) that Can Do is not always shiny and bright.  Sometimes, Can Do is about keeping on keeping on, even when you want to be doing ANYTHING else but what you are doing – for me, writing one more grant proposal instead of taking a day off; for Ned, not working!  I smiling-hearthave not written as many blogs as I had hoped, nor have I updated the book in preparation for hard copy publication.  I.have.not.had.the.energy.  But it is okay!  Every single day, I have done the best I could with what I have.  And, I have kept my smile – well, most of the time!

While frustrated in some minutes (or hours – or days!), we are not discouraged!  We thank God we have each other and our friends and family that are so close and caring on this interesting journey of life. Our life is simpler – when the debit card says stop, we do! Our Christmas gifts were modest. Our celebrations now center on spaghetti or chicken at our dining room table or at a friend’s table – not routine dinners out at nice restaurants.  And, going to a nice restaurant is a bigger treat and more appreciated!  As the t-shirts say: Life is Good!

images (6)When I woke up this morning, I knew I was ready to do some of “my writing” again as a way to reflect and renew and prepare for the days ahead.  I close 2013 with both a smile and a song in my heart. I am ready for 2014 and its journey of joys and challenges and new vistas.

God Bless Us Everyone!

Work Hard and Rest Well

CAN DO knows when to take a break…like I have for the last few weeks from The Can Do Chronicles marketing and this blog.  With Ned back in the job hunt, my grant writing work for the National Head Start Association and Girls Inc. of Dallas has become my primary focus. Because I work for myself, I don’t have paid time off and that becomes its own incentive. Staying healthy is my BIG priority. Even though I am in remission from leukemia, my immune system is not the strongest. I have the hardest time at the change of the seasons, like now, and have already had a couple of cough-y days.

So, my spare time has been dedicated to relaxing: watching movies, taking walks, playingcatnap with the dog, taking naps and reading.

Do I feel guilty?  A little bit!

Am I going to change what I am doing?  NO! 

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I am going to let the ideas and plans for the next phase of CAN DO simmer and percolate while I relax and rejuvenate.

See you in my dreams!

 

Over the Shock and Hard at Work!

It has been almost two weeks since my husband, Ned, was told his job was eliminated. That first week was a rough one… worse for him than for me, but still, no fun for me at all. I was frustrated and unsettled for a whole host of reasons: after several years of financial uncertainty, I had started to make plans – for a vacation with friends next fall, to pay off some bills and purchase a new chair for my office. I was working hard on the next round of marketing for The Can Do Chronicles, and seriously considering publishing it in hard copy. But first I Poofwanted to take a few days off because I had been working so many hours for weeks, between projects for my clients and the launch of the book!  POOF – all of those things disappeared in an instant!  Mostly, I just felt so badly for Ned that this had happened to him AGAIN. That he was not treated fairly or well when he had been so loyal to his employer. And, that his reality for the next months will be the ups and downs of looking for a job. YUCK!

At the end of last week, I was feeling more than a little depressed – those pesky black clouds started crowding in, and I could not blow them away. I know that “living the CAN DO life” does not make it a walk in the park to get through life’s crises, but it does give me tools. So, on Sunday afternoon I intentionally asked the first CAN DO Question: What Can I Do? I made lists of things I want to get done before Christmas, cleaned my office, went to the Home Goods store opening in my area and entered to win a $1,000 shopping spree (which, sadly, I did not win!), called some friends and got out of my own way.

And, I am happy to report the CAN DO strategy worked. I got past feeling shaky and blue, and I feel solid and whole again. With a clearer head, I was able to figure out my plan for what I CAN DO to support Ned and myself through the next few months. The first and Aerobicsmost important, with only my income, I need to stay in great mental and physical shape so that I can do my work well, without feeling pushed, anxious or pressured. I remind myself that I only started working full time again in July and I need to be careful not to get run down and/or sick. So, I will keep going to aerobics two or three times a week – it feels so good (when I stop!) and I know how much stronger I am since I started in July.

And, I will have to put some of the plans for marketing The Can Do Chronicles on hold -not an easy decision to be sure.  I will continue write in this blog at least twice a week and have a couple of holiday shopping specials that I will advertise on Facebook and Linked In, but I will not be able to invest the energy to write the magazine article and guest blog posts or push for media attention that was in the plan, and the hard copy of the book will be delayed. I will do those things next year – and, anyway, look how much more “CAN DO” experience I am getting in the meantime.